with my first labour it was 10 days late and after a sweep at 6 days, then 2 pesseries, then having my waters broken, i finally went into labour and had a quick 4 hour labour.
unfortunatly i was very badly informed about labour, the pain, pain relief, positions and MY RIGHTS, i ended up with a great midwife for the long part but when it came to pushing i had the wicked witch from the west! she moved the screen from the door and kept walking in and out pulling the door wide open so everyone in the halls could see up my ... and she didn't read my medical notes to know i have a hip problem and therefore my labour could have gone quicker as i was in pain for a long time and struggling before she read them under my husbands instruction and then put my legs in stirups, she hadn't asked what position i wanted to push in and then went against my requests in my birth plan and allowed a student to deliver zach, all i could hear was about the cord being wrapped around his neck and no one was talking to me as they were talking among themselves! i've never felt so out of control with my own body, let alone the catastrophy of stitches which i didn't NEED to have but she gave me the local and then didn't wait even a second for it to set in before starting to sow me up. i didn't make a noise through my whole labour besides straining but when she stitched me i SCREAMED and begged her to stop and she refused. then when igot to the ward they refused to help me learn to breast feed and told me to bottle feed and that the baby would learn it in the morning, when i had 4 midwives poking my breasts and shoving his head so as i got so distressed i screamed at them to get out my cubicle!
needless to say that whole experience left me feeling...well raped to be honest. i've never felt so disrespected and badly treated in my life. needless to say that whole experience has left me PETRIFIED of giving birth again, and the problem is?! .... I'm now 24 weeks pregnant! lol. i can't give birth at home as its a rented property and if we ruin anything at all we can't afford to replace it. so can anyone help with any advice about....
breastfeeding (all aspects)
and getting the treatment i deserve in hospital (after all i pay taxes etc just like everyone else!)
ANYTHING you can offer would be greatly apprichiated, thankyou